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My Parents – How They’ve Helped Me – A Moment Of Reflection


Mum and Dad Early 80s

Note – This is from a Personal Perspective


When I was born 1986 my parents didn’t have the word “Autism”, my Autism is a complex mix of genetics and early acquired brain injury (which caused me to have additional issues with learning and processing) due to a difficult birth – However during my early years believe it or not despite my issues, bullying etc. I was a happy child my parents didn’t promote/encourage learned helplessness they pushed me when needed. They also saw me as “Paul not a set of symptoms or traits.

As Donna Williams says personhood is important and one should not be defined by their “condition” confusing it as their “personhood” because they are two different things. They were my teachers, language therapists and so much more.


Love and stability was in the home (because it wasn’t anywhere else) and that is what they taught me to focus on that my glass was half full not half empty and this stayed with me all through childhood, teenager years to now, through my jobs and through education.


To give hope and empowerment is the key (the foundations where set long ago) and yes I do have Classic autism albiet “high functioning”.

(I relate to Aspies from a far appreciating their contributions to the broader palette of what different presentations of Autism can be).

However Autism doesn’t define me. So that is what we can all to give our own perspective to help others and learn from others perspectives to learn more. I can’t speak for everyone but I can contribute just like others too.

Paul Isaacs 2014

Author: Paul Isaacs

Paul was branded as a “naughty & difficult child” at school. He was classically autistic and non-verbal due to speech articulation difficulties. He had complex sensory issues and appeared both deaf and blind. He gained functional speech around the age of 7 or 8 years old. He went through the mainstream school system with no additional help or recognition of his autism. Consequently, he did not achieve his academic or his social potential and had very low self-esteem. At age 11, Paul was referred to the children’s mental health service with childhood depression where he was regarded as “developmentally underage” and having speech problems. As an adult, Paul had a string of unsuccessful jobs, and his mental health suffered. He developed both Borderline and Schizotypal Personality Disorders in early 2007. He was referred to mental health services and misdiagnosed with “Asperger traits with a complex personality”, which did not satisfy Paul or his family. A local autism organisation put Paul in touch with an experienced psychiatrist, who diagnosed him with Autism at 24 years old. In 2012 Paul was also diagnosed with Scotopic Sensitivity Syndrome by an Irlen Consultant who confirmed that he also had face, object and meaning blindness – conditions which Paul describes eloquently in his speeches and training sessions. He also has dyslexia, dyscalculia and also a dissociative disorder. Having started working as an local autism organisation as a public speaker in 2010, Paul joined their mission to promote autism awareness. His hope is that others will not have to suffer as he did. Now also a core member of our Training Team, Paul continues to enhance true understanding of autism at every opportunity. Paul has released and published 5 books on the subject of autism published by Chipmunka publishing and has contributed to other books too. Having overcome many challenges to achieve the success that he now enjoys, Paul’s message is that Autism is a complex mix of ability and disability. He firmly believes that every Autistic person should have the opportunity to reach their potential and be regarded as a valued member of society. Apart from autism related blogs Paul also write about movies, fashion, art and anything that is of interest. As of August 2015 Paul now works as a freelance speaker, training and consultant in and around the Oxfordshire & Buckinghamshire area. If you are interested please contact him via email at

4 thoughts on “My Parents – How They’ve Helped Me – A Moment Of Reflection

  1. Hi Paul! Really great to find you on here, I’ve just set up a blog myself recently. This is a lovely post about your parents, lovely picture too. It’s great to have parents that can really shape your mind and teach you to appreciate the best things about the world. 🙂

    • Dear Laura – Thank You Yes they helped me alot during my younger years I suppose acceptance was the key I still have Classic Autism but it’s not definitive my personhood is important and that oddly enough is one of the benefits of being diagnosed late (age 24). 🙂 Glad you have a blog set up. 🙂 Kindest regards Paul

  2. Excellent post however I was wanting to know if you could write a litte more on this topic? I’d be very thankful if you could elaborate a little bit further. Kudos!

  3. Hmm is anyone else experiencing problems with the images on this blog loading? I’m trying to find out if its a problem on my end or if it’s the blog. Any feed-back would be greatly appreciated.

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