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Wretches & Jabberers DVD – A Journey Into Autism

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A moving and delightful movie and about two men on the autism spectrum who are both “functionally non-verbal” finding their voices through facilitated and typed communication. Debunking the myths that people who cannot speak with their mouths are “retarded” or “intellectually disabled”.

Tracy and Larry are best of friends and their passion for advocacy leads them to meeting others around the globe who are also yearning and fondly sharing their experiences and voices with a wider audience, showing great empathy, compassion, introspection and deepness through the words that they write to a wider audience. Bringing people into their world and inviting others to think, reflect and reevaluate what “autism” and “intelligence” even look like.  Showing great feats of creativity.

There is warmth, humour, sadness and hope sometimes all at once when listening the candid words and hopefully the viewer will come out of this experience with greater level of acceptance and make less assumptions about what is going on on the “inside”. Please all presume competence.

I highly recommend this DVD.

Paul Isaacs 2017

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Think For A Moment? Could Life Be More Balanced?

What is life? But a matter of objective? subjective? Or maybe something more deeper? I wonder is life really meant to be complex? Or is that the way in which people perceive and react to one another that makes it so? Maybe barriers have blinded our minds to make quick thoughts about islands of people we live amongst? People don’t know people but are obliged to talk about them with deep motives, follow your heart not what you see on news or read in the newspaper.

Humans don’t need to be cynical, edged with tyranny. Yes we too profoundly hold dear idols in both statue and human form who confirm and are to do with such things look back in history, look to the now for is woven the future.

Paul Isaacs 2016


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The Striving To Be Balanced

What is like to just “be”? 

The eagerness to be loved, adorned and “famous” is to be in a crippling lament for things so trivial that is but a speck in eternity of what is in the moment of your own universe, the truth is you are not the universe you are apart of, not the centre, you are neither bindless nor to binded, fragile yet made of stone, wings neither clipped, nor straddled to the sky – to seek peace is to be at one with yourself and find yourself with others – the selfless task of giving is more that just a fruitful act but something that comes from a place much deeper.

Paul Isaacs 2016


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Reflections for the New Year and Life

IMAG0272I hope all have a grateful New Year and are ready to spread their wings into different ventures and pathways, you may have to go down a different path and/or continue down the same one until the cross-roads of life unfold you may have do things that are uncomfortable but necessary you may need to do things that continue to give you joy and stability – burning bridges with the philosophy that isn’t shallow but needed, contextual and logical.

Keeping and valuing good friends and loved ones whom value you as you do them with the veneer less intentions and faces with what you see is what you get none too one-sided or over invested but just balanced – this is hopefully something that is learned to me in the coming year to strive to me more balanced, have good emotional management, to not be a doormat or be used by untrustworthy agendas and shallow people he thing more about you can do for them a less about the person you are, to value real friend and companionship this will not just be for 2016 but something that I can work on in the ages.

Paul Isaacs 2016


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Healthy Boundaries, Healthy Relationships, Empathy And Not Treating Others As “Objects”

SAM_0739The Importance Of Healthy Boundaries 

Healthy boundaries are so important for all types of relationships when boundaries are pointed out is good for both parties if autonomy is taken away (for what ever reason) can have negative affect on someone’s self-worth and mental health.

In context of people who have negative personality extremes such as

or other associated personality disorders.

Being Balanced & My Journey With Borderline PD

A journey to building up a sense of “self” (because of developmental and personality types/traits) has been very important to me as I am nearing 30 I kind of know what sort of energy is “balanced” with regards to people and friends and when people are crossing boundaries and learning when I am doing the same.

Autism & Borderline Personality Disorder 

This is a link to my website on how this affected me in the late 2000’s and how it can make you feel this is why a value positive and constructive direction not giving too much but at the same time not receiving too much either. This was a tough time in my life but I am glad I go through it a learned a lot from it also. 🙂

Workplace 2007 & Mental Breakdown

I felt worthless at this point due to persistent difficulties in the workplace It was my first place of employment  so I took it out on myself. There seems to by other types of Borderline PD which includes social manipulation, lying and game playing. None I which I did nor do 

What happened to me was an implosion and psychotic breakdown due to environmental stress and workplace bullying.

Autism & Personality Disorders – Coexistence? 

Autism is part of someone’s developmental trajectory- it is diverse and unique in it’s presentations but all human beings also have unique personality traits and types which develop as well.

In the context of autism personality traits/types and styles are just as relevant and if you take my examples above you can see a “normal” personalty type pushed into the “disordered” extreme. On top of that my autism comes into play too in terms of the processing information, language, visuals, “self” and “other” and all the other aspects of my “fruit salad”.

Kindness – I like to help others I but there has be personal boundaries. which is thinking of the person in question good intentions come from the right place with me but what I have learned is about volume and negative intensity. I think about other peoples feelings a lot.

Mercurial Personality Type  – This is the “Normal/Balanced” version of Borderline PD

  1. Decency; Earnestness; Thriftiness.
  2. Mercy, Forgiveness; Modesty, Naturalness.
  3. Hope, Cheerfulness, Joyfulness, Sociability.
  4. Sincerity, Straightforwardness; Honesty, Fairness.
  5. Tolerance, Liberalism, Open-mindedness.
  6. Generosity, Liberality; Courtesy, Graciousness, Equitableness; Altruism, Kindness; Affability, Friendliness.
  7. Idealism.
  8. Energy, Enthusiasm.
  9. Artistry, Inquisitiveness; Boldness, Spontaneity; Creativity, Humorousness.

Family 2003 1Failure is “Normal” and Relative 

I am glad my parents gave me the chance to have autonomy, freedom, understand “failure” and criticism are normal parts of being human and that the goal of being apart of not the centre of is  a good thing and valuing other peoples feelings and autonomy. The importance of being kind and sincere with depth and integrity I know I got from my parents.

I know where I stand with my parents and certainly my friends too. I can’t imagine how a child could be treated in such destructive way that would effect future development in teenage and adulthood that is scary.

Paul Isaacs 2015


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“Neurotypical” – Is the Word Useful? And/or Meaningful?

“Exhibiting the qualities, traits, or characteristics that identify a kind, class, group, or category”IMAG0110

The Use Of The Word

The word itself doesn’t make sense – being used to describe “others” (people who aren’t on the spectrum) society is a mixture of different sorts of people and rather than lumping people into one “group” (neurotypical society, neurotypicals, NTS) wouldn’t it be best to say people who don’t have autism? People who aren’t on spectrum?

It has also been used as word to “attack” people by some people on the autism spectrum who don’t have autism which surely is reverse prejudice?

Two wrongs certainly don’t make a right in this case.

People Who Aren’t On The Spectrum – Aren’t All The Same (Because No One Is)

You can’t define other (in this context people who aren’t on the autism spectrum) by a set of standards that you have created based on assumption that they must all be like that, that is stereotyping, generalising and over-simplifying. If you treat the set of people by the same standards you expect them to treat you in this case that doesn’t apply because of the contradiction.

If it was reversed and all people on the spectrum were thought to be the same and that was projected people I’m sure people from many different quarters would have something to say – the same applies here. Humans are unique and worthy regardless of having a disability or not. Everyone is equal.

Being Balanced

Two people spring to mind who also question many aspects of the autism word – I have written many blogs about sense of togetherness and all views being taken into account in balanced and objective manner.

Dr Casanova

Dr Manuel Casanova has written many thought provoking and reflective blogs on this subject about representation. I consider Dr Casanova a realist with very firm and empathic with genuine heartfelt intentions and questions with regards to this subject.

THE NEURODIVERSITY MOVEMENT

Donna Williams 2011

Donna Williams has also written highly reflective blogs with regards to the this subject. She has too shares the same qualities with a firm realistic approach, empathic genuine and heartfelt in her words and intentions. I consider their sage advice forward thinking in the context of the autism “world”.

NTs’… When a Word Becomes ‘Loaded’ and Why I Don’t do Bigotry

People Are People 

I like people on the basis of being people it doesn’t matter who they are or were they come from I like them for their personalities not because of anything other – human beings are all unique and that means we are all equal in the world.

Paul Isaacs 2015


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There Is No Collective “Sameness” In Autism The Profiles Are Person Specific

Lindsay Meetup 2014 Hi-Def4Autism & Identity 

Autism is a developmental disability which has an effect has and effect on a person’s functioning in various different areas of functioning. It is a diverse in its presentations, profiles and most in importantly the “mechanics” in other words what is different parts of the “clustering”.

Identity could be to to with the politics and culture that has been created around the Autism & Asperger’s Syndrome they are words for an overview of specific profiles and presentations. I don’t believe that autism is a culture at all. We are all human and cultures are created around “things”.

Autism & Asperger’s Syndrome – Profile Differences

Observations and studies 

Observations from autism consultant Donna Williams and also a recent study in 2011 shows structural differences from a neurodevelopmental perspective within different areas and regions within the brain. This I feel is important not only for people on the the spectrum but family members, teachers and other forms of support for the individual in question.

It is about personalising the support. There are of course people within who have both an Aspie and Autie in terms of mechanics which shows have fluid presentations are.

Autism Rather Than Asperger’s? Why? 

This isn’t specifically to with with my identity (I see myself as a person first( at all and isn’t said the intent to annoy or aggravate people neither. When I say “I have Autism rather than Asperger’s” I am talking about mechanics (what makes up my autism) and my formal diagnosis and differences which are apparent to me and how important it is to know them from this perspective. I have written many blogs on the subjects.

Why I have Autism Not Asperger’s Syndrome  

Why I Have Autism (Rather Than Asperger’s Syndrome) And The Importance In The Differences

Autism – No One Person Is The Same 

Autism is a clustering of pre-existing conditions that build up the person’s profile’s and presentation’s –  there is no “sameness” in that everyone on the spectrum is the same or share identical characteristics. I destian from using “us” and “we” language (single representation) and also “them” and “us” language. (people with autism and people without) Firstly because it is inaccurate to do so, secondly the only perspective I have is my own that is it and thirdly as an autism advocate that is a professional responsibility that I take very seriously I will not adorn to the status quo just because “that’s what is people want to hear”. I cannot speak for everyone that would not be right and potentially damaging.

Lets start being person-specific about profiles not generic, generalised and batting out stereotypes that can make people feel isolated or worse.

Toddler 1The Lost Voices – More Inclusion Needed

Everybody deserves and has a right to talk about their experiences – one could argue it is human right what has concerned me is the political militancy that I have observed on social media. I wonder how many more people are going to be hurt? I hope that is stops and people start listen – because sadly voices (valued perspectives) are going to be lost through bullying and silencing.

I have written this before but I feel inclusion is for everybody 

  • People with Autism and Learning Disabilities
  • People who Are Functionally Non-Verbal
  • Views and Perspectives From The Whole Spectrum (Different Cultures & Backgrounds)
  • Parents, Carers & Guardians
  • Autism Specialists
  • & More

Paul Isaacs 2015