Failure are friends, mistakes are mountains climbed, errors are conversations of change
I have learnt the more grounded you are the journey to this frame of mindscapes becomes clearer and more opaque. Take ownership of yourself, your life, your autonomy.
Before people tell you who you are, think of who you are and assume you are, make sure you have a healthy foundation of self-awareness.
It helped me over the years deal and manage other people’s projection. A lot of people who project have low self confidence, self-esteem for a multitude of differing reasons, personality disorders, anxiety, mood, attachment and/or dissociative disorders.
Poor parental and environmental underpinnings can then cause a fracture sense of core beliefs which then in turn cause a dissonance between actual (perceived) and real self, not many know who they are and project what they think they should be. The gnarled backbone of unhappiness.
So in many ways I feel empathy for people whom are angry at the world and at its perceived and very real misgivings.
However boundaries have to be out in place listen not always to the words but the patterns in which the words form. I have learnt that distance and cutting off is a very needed and that is fine.
Paul Isaacs 2020