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I Am Glad I Got Bullied And Here’s Why

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Note this is from a personal perspective 

I was speaking with two friends this evening and the subject of school-life came up it was an interesting exercise in subjectivity, objectivity and personal experiences shaping people’s lives but not defining them as we all move on.

My friend respectfully and realistically pointed out the fact that when students are at school (regardless of disability or otherwise) they are on their own unique journeys and difficulties can arise from all sorts of areas which have an impact of self-esteem, confidence and the ability to thrive on a functional level.

Enviroment vs. Social-Emotional Development

I was diagnosed late after my mainstream education had finished the best foundation for “social” I was given was through my tenure in education. It gave me the ability to cope with stressful situations, integrate and overall gave me the invaluable skills of living a “human life” rather than a “autistic life”. I was around people and my disability was not being flag waved to the point where I lost myself and was only defined by one single factor.

Is Bullying/Psychopathy Normal in Educational Settings?

I was surrounded by people who used interpretive speech. I still find this mode of speaking difficult and it is something I have aqquired a long the way in the context of school yes that was true. I cannot deny the verbal and at times physical abuse I encountered at school by other students on a daily basis as ‘normal‘ as their conscious psychothapy and narcissism was allowed run free regardless of the emotional damage that ensued.

Yes it is subjective and many of the students that bullied were emotionally insucure however being so doesn’t give you a free ticket to do it to others, however they did. I see this as a learning curve and lessons in life and I am thankful to learn from the shit and make sculptures out of it. 🙂

They may have changed which is great, found families, bared children etc I wish them well on their journeys.

Human Journeys

We (as people) are all on our journeys and bullying and victimisation was part of my experience however many others have been in the similar situations and I refuse to define my present situation by the past experiences. I am indifferent and objective about my past it happened and I am done with the “what could have beens” and “what ifs” I am thankful for my overall experience I would not have had it any other way.

I consider my reality no better or worse than any others, I don’t consider myself “special”, “better” and/or “superior” to anyone else. Affirmation has to be contextual and real not dished out like candy with hollow self-praise. There are too many people in the western world who just want their cake and to eat it all if only it was to shared out a bit more so other people’s realities could be shared and equally acknowledged with the sub-test of mine is better/worse than yours.

Tides of Glory 

I strayed and came about

Eager to scream and longing to shout

I have travelled a life which has been painted

I refuse to see my deepest memories as tainted

Come up and down and my thoughts fleeting around

I pick my body and ground my mind with the comfort of sound

A cloud full memories embraced and feetful of walking to be chased

A human being am I no better nor worse living a madless time at even pace

Paul Isaacs 2017

 

 


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No One Should Be Poor – The Top Down Society

Social Security – Why make cuts in the first place? 

People with illnesses and disabilities should not keep “proving” something that they have and then run the risk of losing income because of “cuts”. Social security was put in place to aid and support the vulnerable in society – social security should not be up for cutting anymore as the price of living is increasing.

Remember the value of having a welfare and social security system

The problem with cutting welfare is it defeats the object and intention of what welfare is and who it is for people may have hard times in their life this not to say that I would want this on anyone but it can and does happen to people and wouldn’t it be moral and productive to help?

Different trajectories and reasons for using welfare and social security 

For example a person may lose their job and need a transition period between jobs  or they may have an injury or illness that means they are off work for a long period of time or have to (in some circumstances) quit work altogether.

Some people may acquire a disability in their life time such as a head injury, physical injury or both, some people may be born with such disabilities and/or illnesses.

The National Health and other National Services 

Privatising national services -does that work? 

Everybody has the right to enter all forms of care in their lives from the basics such as general practitioner appointments, dental appointments, hospital appointments, “social” housing and other services that fall under national or local services. If you over privatise you are falling into a a “top down society” where it falls down to money and the people who are able to afford such services can but other’s may not be able to even get the basics.

This to me is a huge step backwards in both morality and common sense the national services are meant for everybody this means that is doesn’t matter where you are in the “class system” it is for “you” – I am glad that people have been supporting the nationalisation of NHS (which if you think about is odd that a “public service” is becoming “private”) I have faith that this will prevail.

Conclusion

In order to see the logistics one must filter through the nonsense the money deficit in this country doesn’t make sense when millions is being spent on one thing but not on another. If it continues to be used as reason for such cuts that keep happening then how deep can cuts go? It seems that people have rightfully being challenging the cuts and telling their stories of what it is like for them, their friends, families and people’s communities.

I live in hope common sense and a simple act of morality will prosper. Socialism in its true form is not flawed it is about building a fair, democratic equal society that is what people in general should strive for.

Paul Isaacs 2016


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Neurotypical – Is the Word Useful? And/or Meaningful?

“Exhibiting the qualities, traits, or characteristics that identify a kind, class, group, or category”IMAG0110

The Use Of The Word

The word itself doesn’t make sense – being used to describe “others” (people who aren’t on the spectrum) society is a mixture of different sorts of people and rather than lumping people into one “group” (neurotypical society, neurotypicals, NTS) wouldn’t it be best to say people who don’t have autism? People who aren’t on spectrum?

It has also been used as word to “attack” people by some people on the autism spectrum who don’t have autism which surely is reverse prejudice?

Two wrongs certainly don’t make a right in this case.

People Who Aren’t On The Spectrum – Aren’t All The Same (Because No One Is)

You can’t define other (in this context people who aren’t on the autism spectrum) by a set of standards that you have created based on assumption that they must all be like that, that is stereotyping, generalising and over-simplifying. If you treat the set of people by the same standards you expect them to treat you in this case that doesn’t apply because of the contradiction.

If it was reversed and all people on the spectrum were thought to be the same and that was projected people I’m sure people from many different quarters would have something to say – the same applies here. Humans are unique and worthy regardless of having a disability or not. Everyone is equal.

Being Balanced

Two people spring to mind who also question many aspects of the autism word – I have written many blogs about sense of togetherness and all views being taken into account in balanced and objective manner.

Dr Casanova

Dr Manuel Casanova has written many thought provoking and reflective blogs on this subject about representation. I consider Dr Casanova a realist with very firm and empathic with genuine heartfelt intentions and questions with regards to this subject

THE NEURODIVERSITY MOVEMENT

Donna Williams 2011

Donna Williams has also written highly reflective blogs with regards to the this subject. She has too shares the same qualities with a firm realistic approach, empathic genuine and heartfelt in her words and intentions. I consider their sage advice forward thinking in the context of the autism “world”.

NTs’… When a Word Becomes ‘Loaded’ and Why I Don’t do Bigotry

People Are People 

I like people on the basis of being people it doesn’t matter who they are or were they come from I like them for their personalities not because of anything other – human beings are all unique and that means we are all equal in the world.

Paul Isaacs 2015