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Why Are People Disconnected From Certain Emotional States?

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Culture of Conditioning 

Westernised society has conditioned many people to be enraptured by the such emotional rigidity, as to the falseness of how such perceived “negative emotions” and “positive emotions” are handled with.

“Faux Emotional” Responses & Polarising Negative/Positive Thought Patterns 

Smiles and joy are not painted on and should never be supplied as a shallow coping mechanism for darkly thought-scapes, that means you will never understand the lessons of both true sadness and happiness, they both exist to give each other meaning and clarity.

It you are disconnected from BOTH you will never get the timely validity of either.

I have noted that some of my expressions of sadness and melancholy have confused or even upset, however these emotions just “are” they are neither “good or bad”, “right or wrong” they are a human EMOTION to be explored.

Conclusion

Feel things without the threat of judgement. Or put up cladding that in the end distances you further from yourself and other people.

Paul Isaacs 2020


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An Ode To The Narcissist Poem

An Ode To The Narcissist 

those also who “appear to care”,
“appear to help others”
under the surface
their veneered smile plastered
that doesn’t reach the eyes,
so full of their own bullshit
they are all for control

false sincerity
no lease,
no “contract”,
no obligation
to overtly or covertly
exploit
mold.

The damage measurable
yet they wouldn’t care
even if you told
it will always go back to number 1
the only thing they fear
is being “unmasked”

they will lie,
defend,
gaslight,
go into silence,
victim play,
use passive-aggression
avoid and manipulate.

they are so in love with their selves,
blinded by their ego,
self importance
and “specialism”.

Paul Isaacs 2016


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The Oceans Of Communities

Friends and Friends Alike 

The new media of the book of face has made me once question my values of what friendship really is – I have come to the conclusion that fruitfulness of friendship and unity knows no bounds like a lake travelling out to sea and crossing oceans of culture, language and other worlds that are just within a grasp – deep and meaningfulness is solidified in the connectedness that is felt with each person – so a friendship is just as important as a friend whom decides otherwise not to be apart of your life but to carrying with their own that is not sad occasion but a freeing one – wish them no ill as it is not something that comes readily but live in hope that everybody finds grounded being in this world.

Paul Isaacs 2016


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“Autism” – It Is Different For Everybody

“Autism” what is it?

Fruit Salad Analogy Copyright D.Williams

Fruit Salad Analogy Copyright D.Williams

Autism is word for a clustering of different co-conditions that come together to create the “presentation” and therefore when one uses the word “Autism” it should be specific it what that means for the person themselves and what the “mechanics” are no one is the same so why should one condition mean that everybody has the same viewpoints? Profiles? Processing issues? and outlook – realities and perceptions.

Stereotypes – Are They Damaging?

If a “one size fits all” perception of autism then yes – it will affect outlooks, mental health, interventions, motivations, opinions (created and/or forced) not all people on the autism spectrum are logical, literal thinkers/processors, not all are visual thinkers/processors and everyone on the spectrum has their own unique wants, needs and aspirations it not about setting someone up for a fall or failing to recognise a person because they don’t “fit in”.

Lines Culture or Created Culture?

Anybody can create a culture it can start off with an ideal and/or ethos that then becomes reality – I don’t believe that autism is a different culture and never have done. What I do see is a culture being created around autism. Which is a different thing altogether.I am all  and firmly for equality, humanity, humility and happiness. And for people on the spectrum (like everyone else in the world) to have an equal shot at life and have opportunities.

What I am not for is false prophets, venomous politics,  militancy (from culturists and curists) – I prefer to be neutral and through that you can see both sides in balances democratic manner, selfishness and so forth all voices have a right to heard, acknowledged and recognised – disagreement is fine but at what point does one go too far? I have made this point in previous blogs that I think that the autism world will eventually implode on itself and how many people on and off the spectrum suffer as result? Just because they didn’t “tow the line” or “say the right things” Will it be just the same sycophancy? Or will all (people on and off the spectrum’s) view’s be heard? I wonder? Let’s stop the man-made barriers and start listening to ALL peoples views.

I am not angry but I am upset – not really for me but for the others who will be affected.

Paul Isaacs 2015


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The Autism World – When Our Hearts & Ears Have To Be Open To All Realities

Things Need To Change?

It’s my opinion that indulgent self-gratification and the selfishness in parts of “autism world” is what I feel will eventually make it implode and full-apart. If it all becomes about “me,me,me”, point scoring, back-stabbing (being two faced), office politics, game playing, “them and us” separation, object using (psychopathy and sociopathy) not listening, stereotype investing and not learning then people like myself (who try to do their best to empower and stay true to themselves) and others on and off the autism spectrum are going to continue to get hurt, told to be silent not believed or to just told “get on with it” no one seems to care about such repercussions on one’s character and mental health. I process things slowly but get there in the end.

If we listened to one another and appreciated other’s realities we would learn SO MUCH more. It is not the act it is the heart of where the act comes from I do things to empower not monopolise or manipulate.

Conclusion

Listening is a very important tool it means not only showing an interest but in the context of this chapter it means taking into account someone’s thoughts and feelings. What journey have you been through? What paths did you take to get there? Every human being is on there own specific journey and is important to acknowledge that.

“Them and “Us” – We Are All Human 

We can all learn from each other if politics and tired old stereotypes which are churned out through oppression in and around the “autism world” then voices will and are most certainly going to be lost. The them and us scenario causes friction ASD (Autism Spectrum Disorder) and NT (“Neurotypical”) or vice versa.

We as human beings are all equal and when neurotypical  becomes a loaded word (spiteful, derogatory, other or sub-human etc) that is not right. I say people who aren’t on the spectrum myself. Inclusion is about everyone getting involved in the context of this chapter it means that both views are valid.

Conclusion 

All views and opinions wherever someone is on the spectrum or not should be taken into account that is because one can learn from the act of sharing each other views, what they mean. How do they differ? What are the similarities and having healthy look at the whats and whys.

Neurotypical? A Word That Doesn’t Make Sense?

What is an NT? There is no such thing in my opinion. We are all human and taking all realities into account is far more positive and inclusive than creating what I call man-made barriers we could from metaphorical perspective “holds hands” in this regards everybody has a story unique to  a view and/or viewpoints that are as equal and as valid as the next persons.

Conclusion

If someone calls someone a name that is meant to make them feel worthless that has knock on effect on their self-esteem and self worth “typical” doesn’t sound very nice and if the situation was reversed I am sure it would feel equally hurtful. When I talk about equalism I am meaning everybody. Setting good examples is a way move forward.

Militancy – When People Take Things Too Far 

That is true when people attack whether they are on the spectrum or not – one must take responsibility for their actions. That is what worries me there should be no single representation of autism even by people who are in a position of being an advocate on the autism spectrum. One can only talk about their profile and how autism affects them – the key is that their so many other different and diverse profiles.

Militancy creates too many barriers and shuts off a lot other people on and off the spectrum who have different ideas, profiles and presentations. Surely hearing different views is good?

Conclusion

If we talked and discussed our views in a manner which is respectful we may learn that we share things and have insights that are common – however one may learn that are viewpoints and ideals come from different areas this isn’t a bad thing but when views get extreme it has a “pebble in a pound” effect it causes problems for other whose view may be lost in the mix of extremism.

Autism Politics – The Two Extremes

You have people who are are curists and people who are culturists both demographics go to the extreme to get their points of view across to others – what saddens me is that both have points to say but the way in which they’re either presented and said are not practical nor respectable .Wouldn’t it be nice if people listened – I stand neutral believing that everyone is equal (you hear that a lot in the post I know) and human.

Fruit Salad Analogy Copyright D.Williams

Fruit Salad Analogy Copyright D.Williams

What is Autism?

Autism is different and unique for each person who has the it – it’s made of different “ingredients” that means that the overall profile is unique to that person how they process information, if they have additional learning disabilities or not, if they have food intolerances, auto-immune disorders and so forth – in other words it is a set of pre-existing conditions and has a “stacking effect” and a point of origin which in itself is unique to each person- Olga Bogdashina calls it Autisms  and Donna Williams calls it a Fruit Salad. That is why all realities of Autism are different and diverse.

Looking Towards the Future – Equalism and Egalitarianism

If one would strip all the militancy, bullying and aggression by people on and off the autism spectrum – would that create a bigger pathway of diversity? Would more voices be heard? More realities listened too and acknowledged? Would new ideas flourish? I certainly hope so. We are equal in this world and no one is above or below anyone else we all have our stories to tell.

Final Conclusion – Everybody Having A Say 

Every human being on earth has right to be listened too, supported, acknowledged, cared for a appreciated for being them and seeing their personhood. So by bringing everyone into the scene you don’t  have “them” and “us” you see and have different points of views for and by different people on the spectrum or not but equal in their validity, by not having extremism you having balanced acknowledgment of both agreement and disagreement.

Inclusion is Bringing a Diverse set of views from Different Places

  • People on the whole of the autism spectrum
  • People who are functionally non-verbal
  • People with autism and learning disabilities
  • People from different cultures and backgrounds
  • Parents, family members, carers and guardians
  • Autism professionals (neurologists, psychologists, psychiatrists etc)
  • Educational teams
  • Other services

Paul Isaacs 2015


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Venessa Bobb – Autism Advocate, Speaker, Videographer, Editor & Parent – Equality For All On The Autism Spectrum

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 Autism sees no colour, race, sex, age, class, status or faith!!

That is correct and so true and it encapsulates Venessa’s passionate message that people on the spectrum, carers, guardians and other family members can be anyone. There is no set rule and I like the fact that Vanessa is spreading this empowering message to others and breaking down the tired stereotypes of Autism and is promoting,  advocating and creating meaningful and productive inclusion for all on the spectrum. 🙂

Venessa has a son Nathaniel with Autism & ADHD and I admire her for her support and awareness that she is bringing in and across UK about the importance of inclusion for all, acceptance of all and empowerment for all. 🙂

Thank you Venessa for you tireless work and commitment to this cause. 🙂

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Paul Isaacs 2014

 


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Being “You” – Mana- Sama Japanese Guitarist, Singer & Song Writer

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Mana Sama

OVERVIEW

One thing he does prove is that drag can be the highest form of art and lowest form of social conformity. Good on him! 🙂 I like the fact that he has paved his own style, his own music and has even set up this on fashion trend in Japan. Being yourself and not conforming to memes, stereotypes and suppression is so refreshing. 🙂

MANA SAMA

 

 

Paul Isaacs 2014


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Autism “Culture” – I’m not an Ableist (Extreme) nor am I a Cure-ist (Extreme) – I’m a “Neutral”

Wendy Lawson Event Questions 2011

Wenn Lawson Event Questions 2011

Overview

There are many political views in Autism which go to many extremes which causes equal damage at either end of the spectrum (of views), being a neutral means you can take both views and explore them in a less non aggressive, assertive manner.

Genetics, Metabolic & Auto-immune

For some people on the autism spectrum who have complex auto-immune/metabolic issues which create severe pain and discomfort.

Then looking at the reasons why these thing are happening (genetics) is I believe a good thing and productive thing.

Abilities Within Autism

Yes there are abilities within someone’s Autism “Fruit Salad” there is no doubt about that and that can lead to someone living a happy and productive life.

Personhood First

As I have stated on a previous post Personhood/Personality and Autism are TWO different entities.

Just like Personhood/Personality and “Non-Autistic Brain” are TWO different entities.

Personhood first is good in my opinion because that is what people should see you as “not broken, damaged or defective or a set of traits and symptoms” so that is why I say a PERSON with AUTISM.

Community

Community is about everybody sharing and learning. Not just one community it sometimes defeats the point, nor do I like people on the basis of “brain-wiring” I like people because they are nice people kind/funny/humorous/easy-going etc.

Autism & Asperger’s Differeneces?

I have been speaking to Donna Williams a lot about this me and her be her own calculations have about a 40 percent cross-over in profile I have all the left brain stuff as she does, she however has additional metabolic/autoimmune issues which make up her “Fruit Salad” me and her fit the Autism Profile but it is coming from different angles. Like two people with AS will NOT Be the same.

Lets all Learn from each other more questions and answers will be discovered.

Paul Isaacs 2014