Borderline Personality Disorder can be a difficult condition to live you may struggle to be “in your own skin”, have issues with “identity” and purpose in life, with other people and may flip-flop between different aspects of what you perceive your identity to be. Your emotional input-output may well disruptive and hindered.
Borderline personality disorder (BPD) can cause a wide range of symptoms, which can be broadly grouped into four main areas.
The four areas are:
- emotional instability – the psychological term for this is ‘affective dysregulation’
- disturbed patterns of thinking or perception – ‘cognitive distortions’ or ‘perceptual distortions’
- impulsive behaviour
- intense but unstable relationships with others
These four main areas may well vary from person to person and emotional instability and modulation may make you vulnerable to teasing and bullying in your early years as the reactions may well be more extreme and unpredictable in nature, you may push people away without realising or cling on to friendships that aren’t there. This can lead to internal problems with modulating one’s own emotions.
Cognitive Distortions, Dissociation & Psychosis
Cognitive distortions can come in many forms and affect how you deal with in particular negative emotions you may “lock them away”, project them through self-harming, other aspects that can distort reasoning are episodes of psychosis and a breakdown of internal and external reality this may be accompanied by episodes of dissociation.
Impulsivity & Challenges In Friendships & Relationships
The person may want these aspects of life but maintenance for both you and the person you are friends with could be hindered by the symptoms above the changing winds of emotions, a lack of grounded identity and purpose, disruptive and sometimes paranoid thinking and firm and often “black and white” sense of what relationships and friends “should and shouldn’t be”, fear and loss and may have issues with attachment with people around them.
Coming Out The Other End?
I have documented my mental health issues over the years which includes having Borderline Personality Disorder and how that interacts with the overall package within my “autism” and this is how of have dealt with these negative and sometimes behaviours.
- People have their own thoughts, feelings and identities and one must respect a person’s autonomy.
- Grounded sense of “self” I am a whole person with the ability to change.
- Emotions are human and therefore not “abnormal” and are part of the human existence and managing them is crucial for healthy relationships.
- All friendships and relationships are unique in their creation some last a lifetime others don’t and one must accept this.
- I can help and empower people but not overbear them or smother them.
- Seeking balance has a positive impact in your overall life and existence.
Darth Vader shows the key features of BPD
- He fears loss of people he is closest too. The Death of his Mother and not having a Father figure
- He has intense and unstable relationships with the people he loves. His love for Padme and his and Father-figure friend Obi-Wan
- He suffers from emotional dysregulation and has feelings of intense fear, rage, sadness and sorrow. “I Hate You!”, “Where is Padme? Is she safe is she alright?”
- He displays impulsivity and cognitive distortions through manipulation of Chancellor Palpatine. “In your Anger you Killed her (Padme)”
- He has problems with self identity switching from “Anakin” to “Vader”.
I have documented that when dealing with autism you must look at the rounded view that personality types and thus personality disorders can be a part of the package and if this is the case maybe we should looking a little deeper into what that means when managing a person on the autism spectrum who is in emotional crisis and the services that can be provided in the future.
Paul Isaacs 2017