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Blocking and Unfriending – The Psychological Fallout?

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The social phenomena of Facebook and Twitter has created it’s own tribulations of connecting with people in a variety of positive and meaningful ways something that is both brilliant and amazing, however the nature of unfriending and blocking has it’s own consequences to both parties suggested science daily although friendships can flow and move on in “real-life” the termination of a friendship on social media can have its own repercussions.

Different Reasons

This isn’t to say that either party is wrong nor right, sometimes these things are entirely justified  sometimes the person needs a break from social media, they have personal issues that need to be resolved, friendship/relationship/family issues and inappropriate behaviour from the other person. Different scenarios maybe more negative and deliberate such as cyber-bullying, social/psychological manipulation and gas-lighting for example. It is interesting the psychology behind it.

Personality & Dealing With Unfriending & Blocking 

I think it all depends on personality types in how you will react or not as the case may be looking at my personality types both mercurial and self-sacrificing are both both a blessing and a double-edged sword I look to help others but at times that can be to the detriment of own functioning, I like to know people are fine, content, happy but being mercurial I have to rain in the “volume” of these things and that is called responsibility for myself and how I behave around others. When people block or unfriend me I am more concerned about them than myself. 

Studies For The Future?

Environmental factors, personality clashes and miscommunication can arise for anyone on this social format I suppose it is what “buttons” we can deal with and what “triggers” them off. I would like to see a study in Ptypes and the social sites.

Paul Isaacs 2016

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Author: Paul Isaacs

Paul was branded as a “naughty & difficult child” at school. He was classically autistic and non-verbal due to speech articulation difficulties. He had complex sensory issues and appeared both deaf and blind. He gained functional speech around the age of 7 or 8 years old. He went through the mainstream school system with no additional help or recognition of his autism. Consequently, he did not achieve his academic or his social potential and had very low self-esteem. At age 11, Paul was referred to the children’s mental health service with childhood depression where he was regarded as “developmentally underage” and having speech problems. As an adult, Paul had a string of unsuccessful jobs, and his mental health suffered. He developed both Borderline and Schizotypal Personality Disorders in early 2007. He was referred to mental health services and misdiagnosed with “Asperger traits with a complex personality”, which did not satisfy Paul or his family. A local autism organisation put Paul in touch with an experienced psychiatrist, who diagnosed him with Autism at 24 years old. In 2012 Paul was also diagnosed with Scotopic Sensitivity Syndrome by an Irlen Consultant who confirmed that he also had face, object and meaning blindness – conditions which Paul describes eloquently in his speeches and training sessions. He also has dyslexia, dyscalculia and also a dissociative disorder. Having started working as an local autism organisation as a public speaker in 2010, Paul joined their mission to promote autism awareness. His hope is that others will not have to suffer as he did. Now also a core member of our Training Team, Paul continues to enhance true understanding of autism at every opportunity. Paul has released and published 5 books on the subject of autism published by Chipmunka publishing and has contributed to other books too. Having overcome many challenges to achieve the success that he now enjoys, Paul’s message is that Autism is a complex mix of ability and disability. He firmly believes that every Autistic person should have the opportunity to reach their potential and be regarded as a valued member of society. Apart from autism related blogs Paul also write about movies, fashion, art and anything that is of interest. As of August 2015 Paul now works as a freelance speaker, training and consultant in and around the Oxfordshire & Buckinghamshire area. If you are interested please contact him via email at staypuft12@yahoo.co.uk

One thought on “Blocking and Unfriending – The Psychological Fallout?

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