Healthy boundaries are so important for all types of relationships when boundaries are pointed out is good for both parties if autonomy is taken away (for what ever reason) can have negative affect on someone’s self-worth and mental health.
In context of people who have negative personality extremes such as
or other associated personality disorders.
Being Balanced & My Journey With Borderline PD
A journey to building up a sense of “self” (because of developmental and personality types/traits) has been very important to me as I am nearing 30 I kind of know what sort of energy is “balanced” with regards to people and friends and when people are crossing boundaries and learning when I am doing the same.
This is a link to my website on how this affected me in the late 2000’s and how it can make you feel this is why a value positive and constructive direction not giving too much but at the same time not receiving too much either. This was a tough time in my life but I am glad I go through it a learned a lot from it also. 🙂
Workplace 2007 & Mental Breakdown
I felt worthless at this point due to persistent difficulties in the workplace It was my first place of employment so I took it out on myself. There seems to by other types of Borderline PD which includes social manipulation, lying and game playing. None I which I did nor do
Autism & Personality Disorders – Coexistence?
Autism is part of someone’s developmental trajectory- it is diverse and unique in it’s presentations but all human beings also have unique personality traits and types which develop as well.
In the context of autism personality traits/types and styles are just as relevant and if you take my examples above you can see a “normal” personalty type pushed into the “disordered” extreme. On top of that my autism comes into play too in terms of the processing information, language, visuals, “self” and “other” and all the other aspects of my “fruit salad”.
Kindness – I like to help others I but there has be personal boundaries. which is thinking of the person in question good intentions come from the right place with me but what I have learned is about volume and negative intensity. I think about other peoples feelings a lot.
Mercurial Personality Type – This is the “Normal/Balanced” version of Borderline PD
- Decency; Earnestness; Thriftiness.
- Mercy, Forgiveness; Modesty, Naturalness.
- Hope, Cheerfulness, Joyfulness, Sociability.
- Sincerity, Straightforwardness; Honesty, Fairness.
- Tolerance, Liberalism, Open-mindedness.
- Generosity, Liberality; Courtesy, Graciousness, Equitableness; Altruism, Kindness; Affability, Friendliness.
- Energy, Enthusiasm.
- Artistry, Inquisitiveness; Boldness, Spontaneity; Creativity, Humorousness.
I am glad my parents gave me the chance to have autonomy, freedom, understand “failure” and criticism are normal parts of being human and that the goal of being apart of not the centre of is a good thing and valuing other peoples feelings and autonomy. The importance of being kind and sincere with depth and integrity I know I got from my parents.
I know where I stand with my parents and certainly my friends too. I can’t imagine how a child could be treated in such destructive way that would effect future development in teenage and adulthood that is scary.
Paul Isaacs 2015