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Autism, Alexithymia, Accessing Emotions and Empathy

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The Inside Story 2010Autism, Alexithymia and Emotions 


So people with Autism have Alexithymia with their Autism this means difficulties in extracting and verbalizing/communicating thoughts and feelings (not a lack of empathy), I have problems understanding specifically with raw negative feelings and where they come from, years ago (up to my late teens and early twenties) I used to hit myself in the head or tense my body up not knowing were these feelings came from at times. (this process sometimes took weeks, months or years in one case)

Note – Sometimes the build-up varies in my first job it took my three years to process I was being bullied (visual and social signals) and how I felt about this it was like an old computer with a slow hard drive (my brain) and a massive folder (my emotional recognition) it was slowly processing (downloading) the emotions, there have been instances like this one where years of emotions have “hit” me in one lump like this one it was at night and a wave energy came over me it was the realisation of years of bullying and how I felt about it.

Extracting the meaning of these feelings can be difficult a lot of the time. I knew there were problems with something or someone but couldn’t piece the “emotional jigsaw” together.

Recently I have pieced this jigsaw together through the help of my parents giving short islets of information “building up the emotional picture” this has helped me overcome this issue and was very helpful. Having Auditory verbal agnosia (Meaning Deafness) means they have used clipped, concise and direct language to help me self reflect on my behaviour as well as others and this has really helped me – but remember all Autistic profiles are different. 

Remember enablement and positivity for an autistic person is needed in all areas including emotional regulation.  Thanks 🙂

Paul Isaacs 2014


Author: Paul Isaacs

Paul was branded as a “naughty & difficult child” at school. He was classically autistic and non-verbal due to speech articulation difficulties. He had complex sensory issues and appeared both deaf and blind. He gained functional speech around the age of 7 or 8 years old. He went through the mainstream school system with no additional help or recognition of his autism. Consequently, he did not achieve his academic or his social potential and had very low self-esteem. At age 11, Paul was referred to the children’s mental health service with childhood depression where he was regarded as “developmentally underage” and having speech problems. As an adult, Paul had a string of unsuccessful jobs, and his mental health suffered. He developed both Borderline and Schizotypal Personality Disorders in early 2007. He was referred to mental health services and misdiagnosed with “Asperger traits with a complex personality”, which did not satisfy Paul or his family. A local autism organisation put Paul in touch with an experienced psychiatrist, who diagnosed him with Autism at 24 years old. In 2012 Paul was also diagnosed with Scotopic Sensitivity Syndrome by an Irlen Consultant who confirmed that he also had face, object and meaning blindness – conditions which Paul describes eloquently in his speeches and training sessions. He also has dyslexia, dyscalculia and also a dissociative disorder. Having started working as an local autism organisation as a public speaker in 2010, Paul joined their mission to promote autism awareness. His hope is that others will not have to suffer as he did. Now also a core member of our Training Team, Paul continues to enhance true understanding of autism at every opportunity. Paul has released and published 5 books on the subject of autism published by Chipmunka publishing and has contributed to other books too. Having overcome many challenges to achieve the success that he now enjoys, Paul’s message is that Autism is a complex mix of ability and disability. He firmly believes that every Autistic person should have the opportunity to reach their potential and be regarded as a valued member of society. Apart from autism related blogs Paul also write about movies, fashion, art and anything that is of interest. As of August 2015 Paul now works as a freelance speaker, training and consultant in and around the Oxfordshire & Buckinghamshire area. If you are interested please contact him via email at

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