So people with Autism have Alexithymia with their Autism this means difficulties in extracting and verbalizing/communicating thoughts and feelings (not a lack of empathy), I have problems understanding specifically with raw negative feelings and where they come from, years ago (up to my late teens and early twenties) I used to hit myself in the head or tense my body up not knowing were these feelings came from at times. (this process sometimes took weeks, months or years in one case)
Note – Sometimes the build-up varies in my first job it took my three years to process I was being bullied (visual and social signals) and how I felt about this it was like an old computer with a slow hard drive (my brain) and a massive folder (my emotional recognition) it was slowly processing (downloading) the emotions, there have been instances like this one where years of emotions have “hit” me in one lump like this one it was at night and a wave energy came over me it was the realisation of years of bullying and how I felt about it.
Extracting the meaning of these feelings can be difficult a lot of the time. I knew there were problems with something or someone but couldn’t piece the “emotional jigsaw” together.
Recently I have pieced this jigsaw together through the help of my parents giving short islets of information “building up the emotional picture” this has helped me overcome this issue and was very helpful. Having Auditory verbal agnosia (Meaning Deafness) means they have used clipped, concise and direct language to help me self reflect on my behaviour as well as others and this has really helped me – but remember all Autistic profiles are different.
Remember enablement and positivity for an autistic person is needed in all areas including emotional regulation. Thanks 🙂
Paul Isaacs Adult with Autism 2014