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Autism – Conscious Negative Behaviour, Social Mistakes, Meltdowns & Shutdowns

OVERVIEW

This is from a personal observational perspective and the reasons/contexts stated are of many different scenarios 

Autism Is Not An Excuse For Genuine Bad Behaviour 

Autism is not an excuse for genuine bad behaviour – Imagine a circumstance where a person said I have “non-spectrum syndrome” and that is the reason why I did it, that would be appalling, equally so if a person on the spectrum used their Autism for genuine misconduct that would be to.

Equality comes from not only having good things happen in your life but also accepting and taking responsibility in other areas of life too.

Social Mistakes Vs Conscious Negative Behaviours

It is the context – where the behaviour comes from if it comes from for example sensory overload, sensory processing, language processing and metabolic pain with no conscious want and or intent to harm others such as meltdowns and shutdowns.

Sensory overload. processing and agnosias can be seen as “bad” behaviours even if the trajectory isn’t.

Conscious Negative Behaviours 

If the behaviour comes from  a conscious to place to hurt and or harm either emotionally or physically (or both) then it’s coming from a different place altogether the intentions, reasons and contexts are completely different to ones stated above.

Sometimes it is hard to know which place and a bit of detective work is needed.

Paul Isaacs Adult With Autism 2014


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Good Karma

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Good Karma/Energy 

I’m was thinking about the aspect of good energy in the world and how it can be put into balance and used in a positive and productive way – good energy is promoted by good actions, good deeds, a sense of morality,empathy, honesty and sense of being with an equal sense of open – mindedness to others realities, identities, opinions, abilities, cultures, gender and sexuality.

Bad Karma/Energy 

To talk, extract and divert to bad/negative energy can cause imbalance to ones self and other people around this energy much like a pebble being thrown a calm pound the ripples go outwards on impact the reality of this can be devastating to the people who come into contact with this energy in various different contexts. The person must accept that though actions of this nature comes consequences.

“Modern” Society 

The growing trend seems to be I don’t want to take responsibility for my actions in today’s society it seems odd that we have created man-made boundaries that we either run away from, divert or attack.

What has happened to sitting down and talking, understanding and empathizing? Going back to this ideals would be a start. 

Now as a man is like this or like that,
according as he acts and according as he behaves, so will he be;
a man of good acts will become good, a man of bad acts, bad;
he becomes pure by pure deeds, bad by bad deeds;

And here they say that a person consists of desires,
and as is his desire, so is his will;
and as is his will, so is his deed;
and whatever deed he does, that he will reap.

Brihadaranyaka Upanishad, 7th Century BC

Paul Isaacs Adult With Autism 2014


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Family Members, Emotional Fallout’s & Positive Strategies For The Future

Mum and Dad 2005“I live with the fallout of people’s actions and cruel words towards Paul, and I suffer as much as Paul because of their insensitivity. All Paul wants to do is help others, but I find when he needs help professionals don’t want to know. I feel so upset.”

I feel that as a family we are close, we always have been my Father and Mother as I have documented in this blog, my books and speeches have been empowering to both my development and confidence over years They never over-protected me, molly coddled me or babied me they gave me rules, contexts and tools for life. Hence why my first job was 15 years they knew I would only learn from practice not just theory. 

Mum & Dad Bournmouth 2000sMy Mum’s worries as a family member come from two angles firstly the problem with over-projecting one’s point (to the point of emotional insensitivity) not acknowledging the fallout of a person’s words creating a ripple effect and second is the promises that my Mum was given many years ago haven’t been fulfilled – however as a family unit we talk and think of strategies to move forward and carry one within a positive framework not matter what negativity comes our way.

Paul Isaacs Adult With Autism 2014 


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To Be, The Autism “”World” & Doing Things For The Right Reasons

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“If a minority culture doesn’t accept you as much as majority culture, think about following a path of non-conformity”

“The “Autism World” needs to change a lot I have had more lets downs in that world, (there are thankfully diamonds within the rough) than I have in “Mainstream Land” if a world is going to be more diverse then looking at all personal realities would certainly be a viable start.”

“I may not be the smartest but I know why i what I do – to empower others – sometimes to over intellectualise means you get further away from the source of why you do things.”

“People have physically and mentally walked away from me for telling the truth at times in my life – what makes me question this how people flock towards liars”

Paul Isaacs Adult With Autism 2014 


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Reflections On Life & Actions

Lindsay Meetup 2014 Hi-Def10“Egotism is the lost resort for a person who holds his or hers opinions above anybody else’s.”

“Some people apparently like to keep their enemies close, then act surprised when the metaphorical knife is in their back. That’s like a turkey convincing itself that it will be alive through to Boxing Day.”

“Never trust a person whose smile doesn’t reach their eyes, chances are they do similar thing when they “cry” – Just be sure you have that OSCAR ready next time they do this  ;-)”

“To self-righteously project without a thought of listening is a form of constant selfishness”

“Remember to project victim-hood and to be victimised are two different paths to go down one is to project constant self pity this other is an acknowledgment of trauma”

Paul Isaacs Adult With Autism 2014

 


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Being There

Lindsay Meetup 2014 Hi-Def4It’s interesting in society if you say I’m depressed, have a  mental illness and/or are seriously ill three seem to things happen –

You know who your friends are
You know who friends aren’t
You remember the people who supported you

This maybe a reflection of the people around you more than you or your situation. To give your time to others is precious.

Paul Isaacs Adult With Autism 2014 


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Positivity Is A Journey Of Self Discovery & Strategies

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This is from a personal perspective – remember think of strategies that make you happy 

My previous blog was somewhat raw but  a necessary look at situations that can affect the mind and mental health of a person (who ever they are) – with reflective thought and with the help of friends on social media – I believe as difficult as mental health problems can be the importance and acknowledgement of positive energy and that it is good for people.

How we get to this is personal so here are some things that have helped me over the years. :-)

Special thanks to Kirsty Seager & Richard Attfield 

  •  Comedies – Laughter that raw feeling of finding something brilliant in all of its hilariousness has helped me today I was watching an episode of Some Mothers Do ‘Ave ‘Em.
  • Drawing - From a young age I would draw and found i very relaxing, today I have started  drawing again which is cartoon art mixed with fashion this has been a nice past-time to take back up.
  • Poetry – It is a way for me of conveying humour, real-life, emotions and opinions
  • Woodlands - My friend Richard Attfield suggested the countryside strolls within its ethereal beauty as way to calm down, relax and be at peace and that the act of doing so releases anti-depressant chemicals in the brain.
  • Sensory Integration - Another friend Kirsty Seager suggests sensory toys and human software therapy which has helped her.
  • Diet - Richard has also pointed that importance of diet, vitamins and minerals for a healthy body and mind
  • Healthy Friendships - These are very important it is not about someone projecting at someone it is about compromises (which are reasonable) and listening to one another and enjoying each others company this can also flow into workmate and romantic relationships also.

I do not proclaim victim-hood I do however acknowledge victimisation –  this isn’t going to dictate me or my life all people on this earth deserve the right to be happy, content, settled and secure. I will continue to do this. :-) 

I hope this helps others. :-)

Paul Isaacs Adult With Autism 2014

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